Through working with a few women recently, I came across common patterns among women who experience dating fatigue having met many men and very few compatibilities. I'm sure many of you have experienced it too or are in the midst of it. Here are the 4 common patterns.
They have been trying to date up a storm of men.
They have been trying to date on multiple dating apps.
They have been trying to attend multiple social mixer groups.
Have a few men in their rotations. Either all men disappeared or no one seems to show deeper interest in them.
And sure enough they feel tired and exhausted. Some may even think of having a break and eventually giving up on dating. The anxiety of body clock ticking started to creep in (especially those in their late 30s and early 40s) if they still fail to find their ideal partners to have children.
Sounds familiar to you?
SO WHAT HAS GONE WRONG WITH THIS DATING STYLE AND WHY IT DOESN'T WORK?
Well, ladies if you are dating with an agenda which is to "trap a partner" then sooner or later it will feel like a chore. It's not that it's wrong to date with an intention of say having a family down the road in the future because otherwise why you're dating in the first place, right? But if you are hell bent into securing an outcome with a man -any man- it will backfire on you. You will constantly seek and chase men and men will see you as a desperate and unattractive woman. Eventually, you will chase the men away.
On top of that it does not work if you date in such a way because this will also create a pressure on you and you cannot be in your natural self and stay in the present moment to enjoy dating and create genuine connections with men.
SO WHAT SHOULD YOU LADIES DO?
Just throw yourself out that you are single and available and stay focus on yourself. Relax, lean back, be easy going, no goal, no timeline, no expectation, and enjoy dating men like making new friends instead of looking for a husband or boyfriend. There is no need to seek and chase men. Let men come to you.
This approach will take the pressure completely off from you and you become naturally free flowing in your dating journey. Do not date in quantity but with quality men who show their worth to you because you are worth it and have high self-worth.
Always remember to have fun and be presence whenever you are with men to create genuine connections with men. And finally, most importantly is to JUST BE YOURSELF and BE GENUINE. It’s the authenticity in you that finds that authentic connection between you and him!
Words of wisdom: The right man will show up when you are ready within and timing is right. Be patient. Timing is in the universe’s hand.
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